Many of us struggle with giving up full control. We like controlling situations because then we can determine their outcomes. When we are in control, we know how we will look, how the task will go, and how we want others to perceive us. In other words, we find ourselves as perfectionists. When we want things perfect, we need to take full control of every relationship and situation. This need for perfection can easily lead to stress and anxiety, or depression. When we give up complete control, we find ourselves facing different fears. Learning to face these fears head-on is one great way to grow as an individual.
Fear #1: Vulnerability
When we give up control, we face vulnerability. We are giving control over to our peers, colleagues, or support system. They may judge us or may do things differently than we would. They may do something better than we do. Letting yourself be vulnerable will help you to key into your emotions and learn what your triggers are.
Fear #2: Uncertainty
When we are not in control of a relationship or a situation, we don’t know the outcome. We do not know if it will succeed or abysmally fail. When you give up control, you need to learn to live uncertainty. As you journey through life, you will not be able to control everything.
Fear #3: Facing the Past
When we give up control, we may be confronted by past trauma, situations, or relationships. This is not always a bad thing. When we face our past, we can then work through it. Sometimes we may not fully understand how our past affects us until we take the time to acknowledge it.
Many of us find ourselves attempting to stay in control of situations or relationships. When we are in control, we can determine the outcome. However, this control comes at the price of heightened depression, anxiety, and stress, to name just a few. Learning to give up control is a great goal. When we do this, we face certain fears that many find extremely frightening or overwhelming. Here at The Guest House, we know that many people need support as they work through mental health, addiction, or trauma. We are ready to help you work through your unique situation. Call us today to learn about our different treatment options at (855) 483-7800.