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There are many reasons why you may blame others instead of acknowledging your own fault under challenging situations. Sometimes the core of our struggles lies deep down below the surface.

Reaching out to a mental health professional can be helpful as you begin your journey of better understanding your own mental health issues. As you start to face your struggles, here are a few simple ways you can work towards not shifting the blame to others.

Reframe the Situation as a Learning Experience 

When you think of blame, you probably think of a situation that failed or didn’t go as planned. It is often a negative situation.

Instead of viewing the situation as negative, try to reframe the experience as a learning experience. That should help alleviate some of the negativity. Every situation can be positive, in a way, because you can learn from almost every experience.

Acknowledge When It Is Happening 

If you notice you are shifting the blame to others, hit the pause button. What is happening? What is the setting? Who is involved? What triggered you to shift the blame to someone else? Asking yourself questions such as these will help you to understand your thought process better.

Look For the Source 

When in your life did you first begin to shift the blame in situations? Do you remember? Were you a child? An adult?

We often need to find and understand the core struggle or problem to work through current situations. If we can identify when we started to shift blame to others and why we may better understand our current triggers.

Practice Mindfulness 

When we are practicing mindfulness, we are staying in the moment. When we practice mindfulness, we try to acknowledge our feelings as they happen.

When you notice yourself starting to shift the blame around, try to acknowledge what you are feeling. Look for feelings beyond anger or annoyance. Anger is often a surface emotion, and a different feeling, such as fear or grief, lies beneath it. Practicing mindfulness can help you to identify emotions that are lurking beneath the surface.

Mental health issues are complex. Many struggles tend to hide behind habits such as blaming others. If you struggle with mental health issues or addiction, you may notice that you shift blame from yourself to others. Try to reframe situations as learning experiences and work on not blaming anyone, including yourself. Here at The Guest House, we understand how hard it can be to change your thought processes and behaviors. We can help. Call us today at (855) 483-7800 to learn more about our treatment options.