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Conflict is often challenging to handle and work through. If you struggle with mental health issues or addiction, you may find that facing conflict can feel debilitating.
For some, working through conflict causes little stress and strain. For others, facing conflict causes stress, anxiety, and many other negative emotions. Here are a few different ways you can work through conflict in a healthy way.
Be Direct
Try to be direct with what you are saying and what you are feeling. Often conflict arises when one party assumes the other party understands what they are experiencing and thinking when, in fact, they do not.
Being direct and straightforward is difficult for many people. Work with a mental health care professional to gain the skills and tools necessary in order for you to feel comfortable speaking up for yourself. Learning to be direct can help you in many different areas in life.
Avoid “Always”
Words such as “always” or “never” can intensify conflict. Everyone experiences situations differently; everyone has their own interpretation of events and feelings.
Remember that your thought process is not everyone’s thought process, and your interpretation is not the only correct interpretation. If everyone tries to be more understanding, it will lead to better discussion and more learning.
Acknowledge Feelings
If you have a conflict with someone, try to acknowledge everyone’s feelings. Even if you disagree with what someone is saying, you can still acknowledge how they are feeling and how you are contributing to those feelings.
Communicate Goals
Whether it is a personal relationship, work relationship, or another type of relationship, it is good to establish goals. What do you want from the relationship? What will help you communicate more effectively to avoid conflict? What does each party essentially want from the other? Having clear boundaries and goals will help you to avoid unnecessary conflict.
Experiencing conflict throughout life is expected. It is unrealistic to think you will never disagree with someone, have differing views, or get into arguments. However, being able to work through conflict in a respectful manner is essential. Always try to be direct about what you are thinking and feeling. If you find yourself struggling to work through conflict, know that you are not alone. Here at The Guest House, we understand how challenging it can be to change your thought processes. We are here to help you gain the skills and tools necessary to face your struggles and reach your goals. Call us today at (855) 483-7800.