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Letting Go of Expectations

During recovery, you may have the expectation that you are going to be healed immediately. You may also have the idea that you will be “fixed” and no longer need treatment following a stay at a facility. You may need to let go of the expectation that there are no quick fixes in recovery from trauma. Trauma work and recovery involve improving your overall health and well-being on a daily basis. Recovery never ends; it is a lifelong journey. To help you manage and let go of your expectations of a quick fix, keep the following in mind:

Learn to Accept the Things That Are Beyond Your Control

    • Healing from trauma can be difficult and can take a lot of work
    • You cannot control or change the fact that trauma work will take time
    • You cannot change the past; however, you can change your perspective

Engage in Positive Self-Talk

    • You may struggle with negative thoughts and feelings
    • You may not have control over all of your thoughts and feelings; however, you can learn to minimize their impact
    • When the negative voices start in your head, work to reduce them by turning them into something positive
    • For example, when a voice says, “You don’t deserve to be happy,” change the phrase to “You deserve to be happy.” Let this be your new mantra!

Learn to Accept Discomfort

    • You may need to learn how to deal with discomfort to work through your trauma
    • Get out of your comfort zone and face your trauma head-on with the support from others

Letting go of your expectations for a quick fix or a miracle in recovery from trauma can help you succeed. You may feel discouraged from treatment due to your expectations for an immediate fix to your problems. Trauma work will take time. You are worth the time and effort! Remember to manage your expectations by accepting what you can and cannot control, engage in positive self-talk, and learn to accept discomfort. You cannot change the past; however, you can change your outlook and your perspective. You can change the way that you speak to yourself, even if you cannot always control your thoughts and feelings. You may need to learn how to accept feeling discomfort during trauma work. You will need to work through your pain, which you may be avoiding. You are not alone in this pain and others can help you. The Guest House is here for you. Call us today at (855) 483-7800 to get started on your trauma work.