Everyone says things they don’t mean at times. Everyone gets angry, has disagreements, and fights with people in their lives. For many people, these moments are rare and do not overly impact their daily life or relationships.
However, for others, these moments of saying things they do not mean come often and are powerful. These moments impact daily life and significantly pressure relationships.
When struggles start to impact everyday life, we want to understand the struggles and work through them. If you struggle with saying things you do not mean and want to change this habit, here are a few tips to get you started.
Take Ownership
Take ownership over the things you say. Acknowledge that what you said is not what you actually meant to say or how you feel. Take a moment to figure out, and then say, what you do mean. Apologize if necessary.
Discover Your Triggers
When you learn what your triggers are, then you can begin to work through them. What situations cause you to say things that you don’t mean? Is it typically with certain people? You can learn to stop saying things you do not mean when you focus on what is causing your struggles.
Develop a Plan
Develop a plan that you can use when you find yourself starting to say something you don’t mean. When you have a plan in place, you can help yourself to avoid doing the behaviors that you find undesirable.
Focus On Self-Improvement
Try to focus on bettering yourself. What are the goals that you are striving for? Where do you want to see yourself in ten years?
When you are focused on bettering yourself, you may find it easier to avoid the negative behaviors you are trying to leave behind. Focus on how you would like to speak to people. Learning to avoid saying things you don’t mean will improve your relationships.
If you find yourself constantly saying things to others that you do not mean, it can significantly impact your mental health and overall well-being. Your relationships will probably suffer, and you will feel bad saying things you later regret. Try to take ownership of what you are saying, and create a plan to avoid saying things you don’t mean in the future. Here at The Guest House, we understand how difficult it is to change your thought processes and actions. We are here to help and support you. Call us today at (855) 483-7800 to learn more about our different treatment options.