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How Can We Heal From Trauma Bonds?

Strong Attachments in Toxic Relationships Trauma bonds are the strong attachments we form because of shared trauma, often in toxic and abusive relationships where we are experiencing, witnessing and contributing to the traumatic dynamics between us. When we’re in deeply unhealthy relationships, many of us sustain recurring cycles of trauma and repeating patterns of mistreatment.Read More

What Happens When We Numb Our Pain?

When we haven’t yet learned healthy techniques to navigate our difficult emotions, we tend to fall into unhealthy emotional patterns of trying to escape our pain and numb ourselves from it. We use our drugs of choice, our addictive substances, and behaviors, to self-medicate from the emotions we’re having a hard time facing. Very oftenRead More

How Can Past Trauma Impact Our Current Lives?

Worsened Health Outcomes When we aren’t aware of our trauma or how to heal from it, the energy of it tends to accumulate within us, causing us pain long after the initial source of trauma. That painful energy is stored not only in our subconscious minds but in our physical bodies and energy systems asRead More

Forgiving Our Abusers

For those of us struggling with addiction and mental illness, one of the commonalities so many of us share is the personal experience of having been abused in the past. Whether we were abused by a family member, partner or stranger, the pain can be debilitating and can stay with us years after the initialRead More

How Do We Lie to Ourselves?

There are various ways in which we’re dishonest with ourselves about our addictions, try to delude ourselves, or otherwise convince ourselves of things that aren’t really true, usually because we’re in such deep denial about our problems with addiction that we don’t want to face the truth. Sometimes we’re conscious of the fact that we’reRead More

When We Don’t Receive Compassion

If you’re struggling with thoughts of suicide, PLEASE call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255). As human beings, we are hard-wired to be connected to one another, to give and receive love, to be supportive of one another, and to work together. We are conditioned in various ways to strive for independence and self-reliance,Read More

The Importance of Trauma Healing in Recovery

If you’re struggling with thoughts of suicide, PLEASE call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255). The work we do to recover involves learning how to abstain from our drug of choice, transforming our lifestyles and routines to support our sobriety, and looking at our life circumstances to see how we’ve been negatively impacting ourRead More

Why We Seek Numbness

There are countless different ways in which we use our addictions to try and help ourselves cope. Sometimes what we’re most seeking when we turn to our alcohol and/or other drugs of choice is a feeling of numbness, a sense of nothingness, an emptiness as a way of coping because our mental and emotional painRead More

Understanding Our Trauma Responses

If you’re struggling with thoughts of suicide, PLEASE call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255). Our traumatic experiences can be so overpowering, so destabilizing and so debilitating that we struggle to understand them. We can find it impossible to make sense of them and to wrap our brains around them. Similarly, our responses toRead More

The Importance of Exploring Our Pain

When we’re working to recover, we place the majority of our emphasis on abstaining from our drug of choice and figuring out how we can prevent ourselves from relapsing. We practice coping skills to help us manage our self-destructive impulses. We look for ways to handle the temptation of our addictive urges and compulsions. WeRead More