Disagreements are natural. It is unrealistic to think you will never argue with a friend, loved one, or acquaintance. What is important to remember is that the disagreement can occur in a healthy and respectful manner. It can be hard to think about the other person in the argument, especially when you are sad or angry. It is natural to think about yourself in the heat of the moment and to focus on your own feelings. This is when arguments tend to escalate and turn unproductive. Here are a few tips to remember during your next argument to keep your disagreement healthy and productive.
Have an “Us” Perspective
Whether you are having a disagreement with a loved one or a friend, try to remember to have an “us” perspective. You have a relationship with this person for a reason, and most likely, you care about them. Remember that together you can create a team and overcome any disagreement or challenge.
Consider Your Role
Always try to remember and think about your role in the disagreement. What did you say or do that added to the argument? Having empathy and acknowledging that you caused hurt is important. What can you personally do to work towards a resolution that makes everyone happy and comfortable? When we take time to think about our own role in the disagreement, we can better understand the other person and come to a mutual understanding.
Speak Directly
Often arguments or disagreements occur because of a lack of communication. We assume the other person understands and knows what we are truly saying and what we are feeling. Try to speak directly and respectfully about what you are feeling and experiencing.
Call a Pause if the Argument Begins to Escalate
If there is no resolution in sight and the disagreement seems to be escalating, it is perfectly okay to call a pause. Sometimes we need to take time to calm down, think about our role in the argument, and remember our ultimate goal.
Everyone experiences disagreements and arguments with others. The goal is to learn how to have disagreements in a healthy and respectful manner. Learning how to acknowledge your role and when to call a pause are powerful skills. Many times we find ourselves fighting with others when we have underlying issues or concerns that we are failing to acknowledge and work through. Here at The Guest House, we are ready to help you face any challenge you may encounter. We know taking that first step of reaching out for help can be scary and overwhelming. We are here to help you each step of the way. Call us today to learn more about our treatment options at (855) 483-7800.