According to the National Center for Biotechnology Information, it is suggested that attachment insecurity begins during childhood. These attachment insecurities exhibit feelings of reluctance, dependence, and rejection. If you are involved in a bond that is contaminated by fear, this can result in various damaging psychological effects. It could even interfere with potential healthy relationships because you have learned not to trust people. Attachment insecurity may become an even bigger issue when you are trying to develop a romantic relationship. For adults, there are four different attachment styles.
- Secure
- Anxious or Preoccupied
- Dismissive-Avoidant
- Angry-Avoidant
When you suspect you are insecurely attached and have a negative impact, there are various ways to treat these emotions.
Consult a Professional
Try to seek a therapist versed in attachment theory. You might ask upfront if they have ever had similar patients to you and how they transitioned from insecure attachment to secure attachment in their love life. You might also consider bringing your partner along to work with a therapist to help understand and break down any barriers you have that are preventing you from developing a secure bond.
Start Slow
Thinking about the future of your relationship can be frightening. You can overwhelm yourself when you begin to think about the years to come. Instead, think about the coming days or weeks regarding your relationship’s future. If this still feels overwhelming, take your relationship and the bond you wish to create a day at a time.
Your Partner
Assess your relationship both with logic and fairness and understand the dynamic between you and your partner. Do they support you or undermine your efforts to develop a secure attachment? Do you find yourself sharing more good memories or damaging memories? The dynamic you share with your partner is vital to helping you overcome your attachment insecurity.
Seeking help and finding practices to develop a healthier, more trusting bond in your love life will, in turn, transcend to other friends and family in your life. It will help to make all of your relationships more fulfilling. However, reaching such a place of trust and fulfillment will be hard to do on your own. Always seek help when you are struggling. At Guest House, we work with both individuals and couples to understand the underlying issues in attachment insecurities. With both conventional and experiential methods, we ensure that you will get the treatment appropriate to meet your needs. To learn more, call us today at (855) 483-7800.