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Treat Others With the Kindness You Want Returned

There is so much rudeness in the world today. Many of us grew up with the saying, “treat others the way you want to be treated.” However, not many people take note of this saying and act upon it. From strangers cutting you off on the road to a person hiding behind their keyboard, those you don’t know may act with so much hatred toward you. Instead of matching their hatred, return kindness to them. They may need it more than you know.

Everyone Is Fighting Their Own Battle

When someone shoves you on the street or curses you for a small mistake, you may want to be rude right back. Instead, take a breath and remind yourself that everyone is fighting a battle that you know nothing about. They could be grieving a loss or dealing with other trouble. Instead of returning the rudeness, return kindness.

How Do I Handle Rudeness From a Stranger?

If a stranger has been rather rude to you, you may want to be rude right back. You’ll probably never come in contact with them again, so what’s the point of practicing kindness, you may ask. It matters, even if it doesn’t seem like it in the moment. All acts of kindness, no matter how small, spur good feelings in the person giving and receiving.

Instead of fueling the hatred within the world (and yourself), take a moment to breathe and be kind back. Allow the tension to dissipate and resist all urges to engage. Try not to take their actions personally. They won’t appreciate a witty comeback, so hold back on this one. If you allow every rude person out in the world to live rent-free in your head, there will be no healthy space in sight.

What you can do instead is have a mantra to repeat to yourself. I will not take this personally. This has nothing to do with me. Remind yourself of this while keeping calm. Practice your breathwork while being silent until you are able to calm down. Allow yourself the space to shift from a sense of self to realize that it is not a reflection of who you are.

How Do I Handle Rudeness From Someone Online?

The internet can be a difficult place to be. If you take every mean Tweet and read every last comment, your self-esteem will plummet. You’ll want to fight back, protecting yourself and those you love. Again, take a breath. Close the app. Turn off your computer. Don’t allow yourself to get caught up in the hatred that is often online.

It’s also important to remind yourself that things can get taken out of context online because there is no way to read expressions and emotions that are unsaid. Because of this, people take the liberty to be a bit braver than they would be in real life. Take this into account and put it down.

You don’t have to post that rant to protect yourself from the trolls. Instead, take a breather and give yourself space. A good rule to follow is to put down electronics early in the evening and don’t pick them back up until you have gone through your morning routine. If you are thinking about that online troll while you drift off to sleep, you aren’t setting yourself up for a good night’s sleep.

If you check your feed first thing in the morning, your intentions for the day are not pure. Allow yourself space from the negativity and rudeness. If you do happen to come across the negative and rude world of the internet, give people the benefit of the doubt. Assume that they are having a rough day and allow yourself to move on with your day. Getting caught up in this from someone online doesn’t bode well for anyone.

How Do I Handle Rudeness From Someone I Know?

Handling rudeness from someone you know can be a bit harder because there are relationships and codes that you don’t want to break. Of course, you don’t want to disrupt the peace. There are times, however, when you should say something to the person if their rudeness continues and they do not acknowledge it.

There is a correct way to do this, however. If you are dealing with a rude co-worker, you might want to vent to your other co-workers. This, however, only makes things worse. Don’t allow this irritation to grow. If you must, find the right moment to speak with your co-worker.

Don’t automatically send the conversation into an argument. Allow for some healthy back and forth. Help the person learn from their mistakes. Accept their apology. Allow yourself and the other person to move on. Grudges don’t have to be held forever.

Kindness is contagious, so allow yourself to respond to rudeness with kindness. Realize that your relationships in your recovery are more important than holding a grudge. Your support system is there to support you, but make sure that you are being kind to them as well. If you are struggling with the aftermaths of trauma, contact The Guest House today. We can help you release your unhealthy coping skills. We have programs that can help you recover. Call us today at (855) 372-1079. We can’t wait to hear from you and help give you the help you need. Call now, you won’t be disappointed.