You may be feeling a new sense of freedom and empowerment in recovery. You might start to regain your sense of self. Now that you are building your self-esteem and creating the life that you want, you may need to remember to set healthy boundaries with others. Boundaries help you maintain your sense of self in your relationships with others.
For those seeking treatment or in recovery from trauma, you may need to learn to speak up for yourself to set healthy boundaries. When in recovery, you may be triggered by others or feel obligated to meet the needs of others at the expense of your own health. You are responsible for setting boundaries with others; they will not do the work for you. Most other people will not know how to treat you unless you tell them. You may need to learn to say “no” to activities that you do not have energy or desire for. You may need to deal with conflict when other people cross your boundaries.
Setting boundaries can be tough, so keep these tips in mind:
- Be clear, direct, and concise about your needs
- Use “I” statements and speak from your point-of-view
- Start with the small things
- Try to practice not apologizing when setting boundaries
- Be respectful and patient with others
- Be patient with yourself as you learn to set boundaries
- Learn to be comfortable with saying “no” when needed
By setting healthy boundaries with others, you are validating your needs and taking care of yourself. Remember to practice and that as you build your self-worth, you will more easily identify when a boundary is being crossed.
Setting boundaries with others is an important part of recovery. You may need to stand up for yourself, even in the relationships that are already established. When you begin to recover from trauma, you may appear to change to those around you. They may not be sure how to react to your newfound sense of confidence and self-esteem. You are responsible for telling others how to treat you. You can stand up for yourself by practicing healthy boundaries. Manage your expectations and remember that this will take some practice. Start small and allow yourself time to build confidence and self-worth in recovery. If you or a loved one are struggling with feelings of confidence or self-worth due to a traumatic event, there is hope. Call The Guest House for information about our treatment programs to recover from trauma. You are worth it and can live the life you desire. Call (855) 483-7800 today for more information.