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Borderline personality disorder is one of the more complex personality disorders. The depth of emotional pain and suffering, coupled with irrational and impulsive behaviors, is perplexing to psychological professionals. Many believe that the source of borderline is a significant and traumatic event of abandonment. Researchers have linked borderline to autoimmune disorders and chronic inflammation. The symptoms of borderline are common: unprompted, unregulated, unmanageable emotional experiences which often result in hurting the self or others- physically, emotionally, and verbally. People with borderline personality disorders are aware of their behaviors and the consequences of them and often act in increasingly erratic ways as a self-fulfilling prophecy to their abandonment fears. Researchers have not yet been able to get a firm understanding of what goes on in the mind of individuals with borderline. Treatments typically involve therapy and the use of techniques like Dialectical Behavioral Therapy which was created for people with borderline who experience extreme emotional reactions.

Borderline creates irrational fear of abandonment: People can develop abandonment issues for a number of reasons. For those with borderline, the fear of abandonment is not just the fear of someone leaving, but the fear of being rejected, of not being loved. This fear is twofold because borderline creates a deep sense of worthlessness which the person with borderline cannot handle. As a result, the behaviors in response to abandonment fears are based in feeling that nobody could stay or want to stay in a borderline’s life. Oftentimes, the behaviors are self-defeating and push people away. People with borderline live with the conviction that they will be abandoned.Borderline causes a need for deep validation: Perform well in a school play and expect to receive some kind of accolade. Perform well in a school play and receive no accolade, you will feel discouraged and perhaps insecure that you didn’t perform as well as you thought you did. Borderlines live in a state of not just expecting validation but needing it on a deep level. More than based on performance, borderlines need validation for who they are and that they matter.Borderline makes boundaries personal offenses: Enmeshment with others is common for borderline as an attempt to avoid abandonment. People with borderline forget that other people are allowed to live their own lives and act independently without constantly validating the borderline or soothing their fears. Boundaries are important to maintain healthy relationships, however, they are often interpreted as small signs of abandonment and indications of a borderline’s fears.

What goes on inside the mind of a borderline is intense and complicated, fueled by love and fear. Abandonment is a form of trauma, which can be treated. If you feel you are having a hard time regulating fears of abandonment as a result of trauma, help is available. Call The Guest House Ocala today for information on our residential treatment programs for trauma, addictions, and related mental health issues: 1-855-483-7800