We all need help at some point in our lives, so why is asking for help so hard for some people? Why do some of us just hate the idea of reaching out to someone? There are a lot of different components that play into our discomfort and dislike for needing to ask others for help.
Why It’s Tough
Some of us are hardwired to want to be independent and do things for ourselves. Asking for help can mean surrendering our sense of control to someone else. A lot of us feel the need to control situations and determine their outcome. When we ask for help we are letting others take some of our control and help to shape the outcome of the situation.
Fear of Judgment
When we ask for help we are opening ourselves up to another person. Our internal fears start to come forth. We may fear looking needy or fear that they may reject us. The idea of asking for help and then being rejected at times can feel crushing. Some of us work extremely hard to be perceived as determined, hard-working, and someone who can handle everything on our own.
Opening Up
Learning to ask for help when you need it can be very therapeutic. It can help you to connect with others, form stronger bonds, and learn to give up total control. Everyone needs help at one point or another, and there is a good chance that if you start asking for help from others, then others will feel more comfortable asking you for help as well. Having strong connections with others can really help you to get through stressful and difficult times. It is okay to rely on others and accept the help of those around you.
Asking for help from others can be a hard thing to do for some people. It can feel as if we are giving up control and letting others determine our outcomes. We may worry that we look needy, cannot handle the situation ourselves, or fear rejection. Learning to ask for help can build bonds and connections with others on a deeper level. Sometimes we may not fully understand why we struggle to ask for help. Here at The Guest House, we are ready to help you further explore yourself, your actions, and your thought processes. Call us today to learn more about how we can help you at (855) 483-7800.