Helping someone cope with their traumas can be a complicated task. Even the word “trauma” elicits certain images of horrid devastation and life-threatening events. Natural disasters and war zones typically come to mind, but trauma can be much more than that. In fact, there is a second kind of trauma, spelled with a lowercase “t” that often goes unnoticed. Subsequently, this lowercase-T trauma goes unaddressed in many people but can carry its own detrimental effects.
Defining the Traumas
“Trauma,” spelled with a capital “T,” is usually the kind that people think of when they hear the word aloud. It involves life-threatening events, significant loss, and upends ways of life for individuals or even groups. However, the lowercase “trauma” carries its own definition. It is for other damages, such as the loss of a pet or the death of a meaningful relationship, each bringing its own sadness. These traumas tend to elicit less sympathy from our fellows since they are often unfairly compared against the backdrop of “Trauma.” Still, the self-destructive tendencies can end up being the same.
Take It Seriously
These traumas need to be taken seriously, especially if someone has finally confided in another to tell them about it and how much it affects them. Expressing this sadness only to have it be met with dismissive sentiments only aids in isolationist tendencies, and breaks down any other notions to continue confiding in people. There is a reason these traumas affect that person in such a way, whether it be that they have piled up together during developmental years or hold certain traumatic memories in connotation with other places, people, or times. An example might be not celebrating a birthday because it reminds them of a pet they once lost around that time of year.
React
Listening and taking it seriously is the first step in showing the person that their traumas are worth taking seriously – a notion that can go a long way. When someone confides in another, the best way to help is to listen reactively. Instead of trying to snowplow potential triggers out of the way, and deny the person the opportunity to continue working through them, react to what they say and need instead. They will be the agent of their own healing, and every healing process requires a listening, caring support system.
Each trauma is different and presents its own challenges. Still, The Guest House is prepared to aid anyone in their own path towards healing. Specializing in trauma services and addiction, The Guest House’s caring staff are ready to address the root of the problem alongside any co-occurring disorders. Trauma and addiction never exist in isolation. Their holistic approach is designed to empower the person to create their own success from the very root of the triggers. To contact The Guest House, call 1-855-483-7800 today.